Ways of solving and managing family conflicts

21 April 2025, 12:11 pm

By Ronald Ssemagonja

There are various definitions of conflict, one of which describes it as a disagreement or clash between opposing forces, ideas, or interests. Family conflicts, therefore, can arise from a range of sources, including differences in opinions, values, and priorities. Common examples include disagreements over finances, parenting styles, inheritance, and household responsibilities, among others.

According to the Police Annual Crime Report of 2023, a total of 271 land-related crime cases were reported to the Land Protection Unit, compared to 561 cases in 2022, representing a 51.7% decrease in this category. By the end of 2023, 24 cases had been taken to court, while a smaller number remained under investigation, according to the 2024 Police Annual Report. The same report noted a general decline in land fraud cases, from 561 in 2022 to 271 in 2023. However, there were slight changes in the figures reported in 2024.

It is against this backdrop that the Executive Director of Hope Regeneration Africa, parenting coach, marriage counsellor, and founder of the Men of Purpose Mentorship Programme, Tumuramye Dickson, proposed several solutions to help prevent such conflicts.

“The first step in managing family conflict is identifying the root cause and acknowledging its impact,” he said. “Family members must be willing to confront the issue and work towards a resolution. This requires open-mindedness, mutual respect, and a sincere commitment to finding a solution that benefits all parties.”

He added that effective conflict resolution begins with honest and respectful communication. This means that family members should feel free to express their emotions and concerns without attacking or hurting one another.

The Bible says in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Misunderstandings often escalate when individuals spread rumours instead of addressing issues directly. Tumuramye noted that during conflicts, emotions can run high, leading to outbursts of anger, harsh words, or even physical altercations.

“Practising self-control is essential to prevent the situation from worsening. Instead of resorting to shouting, threats, or violence, take deep breaths, remain calm, and choose your words carefully to de-escalate tension,” he explained, referencing Ephesians 4:26–27: “And do not sin by letting anger control you. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”

Many cases have been resolved through mediation, and in this regard, the director encourages people to embrace it. “Some conflicts cause significant emotional distress, leading to anxiety, depression, or estrangement among family members. If emotions become overwhelming, professional counselling or mediation can help restore relationships. Mental health is crucial to overall well-being, and unresolved family conflicts can negatively affect emotional stability. Seeking professional support early can prevent long-term damage and promote healing.

“Forgiveness is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. When a family member—or anyone who has done wrong—acknowledges their mistakes and expresses remorse, healing can begin. True reconciliation requires humility, active listening, and a commitment to moving forward without holding onto grudges,” he said.

Arua Resident Judge Harriet Magala once remarked that mediation is effective, as many legal cases stem from family conflicts, including land disputes. “Mediation strengthens relationships in society when it is embraced. I encourage judicial officers to review case files to determine their suitability for mediation,” she said.

As 1 Peter 4:8 reminds us: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

It is also important to remember that some conflicts arise from unclear boundaries, roles, guidelines, and expectations within a family structure or institution. Establishing and respecting boundaries is essential for maintaining harmony. Everyone has a role to play in creating a peaceful and supportive home environment.