Friendship betrayal concerns rise as UCU holds tense guild election

17 November 2025, 10:46 am

By Ronald Ssemagonja

Cases of betrayal among close friends continue to spark concern across generations in Uganda, with counsellors and affected individuals sharing experiences of emotional damage caused by broken trust. Many Ugandans say these experiences have contributed to stress-related illnesses, some dating as far back as 1920.

Last week, several people shared their views on how betrayal can be detected and managed. Relationship coach and counsellor Birabwa Janet noted that betrayal in friendships is particularly painful because such relationships are built without formal boundaries.

“We assume friends will protect our secrets, support us in hard times, and celebrate our wins. When that trust is broken, it shakes our sense of safety and belonging,” she said. Birabwa advised victims to create boundaries, reflect on warning signs, choose forgiveness for their own healing, and allow time to recover while remaining open to building healthier friendships.

For some, betrayal has encouraged more intentional relationship choices. Jonah Apolot shared his experience, saying, “I have learnt to protect my peace. Friendship is a privilege that thrives on mutual respect, trust, and care. True friends are rare treasures.”

In Kampala, Shantal Nakate said betrayal from someone close often hurts more because of the shared memories and vulnerability. She cited envy and emotional competition as common but initially unnoticed red flags. Another case is that of Jeremy Byaruhanga of Wakiso District, who reconciled with a longtime friend after a misunderstanding over a business deal. Through open conversations and counselling, the two rebuilt their friendship.

Meanwhile, Uganda Christian University (UCU) Mukono last week held its student guild elections. Engineering student Abraham Elamaboni was declared Guild President-elect of the 28th Guild Government after securing 2,163 votes (53.24%), defeating his rival Bright Atuhaire who obtained 1,904 votes (46.76%).

Atuhaire, a former chairperson of Mengo Senior School (2022/23), was reportedly dissatisfied with the results and considered challenging the outcome through legal means. University authorities, however, maintain their role in safeguarding the institution’s image and ensuring a peaceful post-election atmosphere.

Observers warn that disappointment after tightly contested elections can trigger emotional distress among students. Julius Kaggwa, a university leader from Eastern Uganda, advised institutions to involve senior Electoral Commission officials to avoid chaos, given their experience in national elections.

“It is unfortunate that in some universities students become unruly when the winner is announced. Involving experienced election officers could save resources and even lives,” Kaggwa said.

He encouraged losing candidates to remain disciplined and focused, emphasising that many leadership opportunities still exist beyond campus politics.